人际关系的21条基本准则：学会如何对付“攻击”

3479 发表于 2009-5-21 15:25:00

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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 25.5pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=34>    在人际关系上，在回应摩擦上，在对付攻击上，最多只发三分力，最多发力30秒钟，再多花一点时间和气力，都是绝对地浪费时间。</TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl22 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 14.25pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=19></TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl22 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 14.25pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=19></TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 25.5pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=34>5、绝对不在公开场合，尤其不能在自己的权力影响范围内，即利用自己的权力或者影响召集一些人大谈旁人说了你什么。</TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 25.5pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=34>6、不回答任何对于你个人的人身攻击，只讨论对于你和你的对手以及更多的人们，对于社会和国家，对于某种学理的建设和艺术的创造确有意义的问题。</TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl22 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 14.25pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=19></TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 25.5pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=34>8、一时弄不清或背了黑锅没关系。你还是你，他还是他。一个黑锅也背不起的人只能是弱者。</TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl22 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 14.25pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=19></TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 25.5pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=34>9、不随便拒绝人，也不随便答应人。不许愿，不吊人家胃口，不在无谓的事情上炫耀实力。</TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 38.25pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=51>12、人际关系是双向的。学人者人恒学之，助人者人恒助之，敬人者人恒敬之，爱人者人恒爱之。同时，说人者人恒说之，整人者人恒整之，害人者人恒害之，耍人者人恒耍之，虚伪应付人者人恒虚伪应付之。</TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 25.5pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=34>16、对某人某事感到意外时，先从好处想想，可能他做这件事是为了帮助你，至少客观上对你无损，而千万不要立即以敌意设想旁人。</TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 38.25pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=51>17、永远不与任何人包括对你最不友好的人纠缠。你搞你的人际纠纷，我忙我的业务工作。你搞纠纷的结果未必能怎样怎样，我搞业务工作的结果很可能有一些成绩。我的一切成绩都是对你的最好回答，更是对友人的最大安慰。</TD></TR>
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<TD class=xl23 style="BORDER-RIGHT: #ece9d8; BORDER-TOP: #ece9d8; BORDER-LEFT: #ece9d8; WIDTH: 424pt; BORDER-BOTTOM: #ece9d8; HEIGHT: 25.5pt; BACKGROUND-COLOR: transparent" width=565 height=34>18、寻找结合点、契合点，而不是只盯着矛盾分歧。视不同意见的人为现实的诤友或候补诤友，而不是小气鬼般地见到意见不一的人就如坐针毡。</TD></TR>
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3479 发表于 2009-5-21 15:27:00

回复：人际关系的21条基本准则：学会如何对付“攻击”

学习学习！

九天红 发表于 2009-5-21 17:12:00

回复：人际关系的21条基本准则：学会如何对付“攻击”

每个人都希望别人真诚，那就永远没有真诚。

大伯爵 发表于 2009-5-21 18:03:00

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学习了，受教育了

瑞月发表于 2009-5-22 14:02:00

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很重要，学习了

zyp_sjz 发表于 2009-5-25 09:58:00

回复：人际关系的21条基本准则：学会如何对付“攻击”

很有道理哦，尤其是15条，其实职场有很多人都是装傻充愣啊，真的很恐怖啊！

hyperok 发表于 2009-5-27 16:29:00

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嗯，不错，学习学习。

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