职场心灵沟通技巧
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-INDENT: 10.35pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; mso-char-indent-count: .98"><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>一、讲出来</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">尤其是坦白的讲出来你内心的感受、感情、痛苦、想法和期望,但绝对不是批评、责备、抱怨、攻击。<SPAN lang=EN-US><o:p></o:p></SPAN></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LAYOUT-GRID-MODE: char; TEXT-INDENT: 5.15pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; mso-char-indent-count: .49"><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> <FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>二、不批评、不责备、不抱怨、不攻击、不说教</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">批评、责备、抱怨、攻击这些都是沟通的刽子手,只会使事情恶化。<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> <FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>三、互相尊重</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">只有给予对方尊重才有沟通,若对方不尊重你时,你也要适当的请求对方的尊重,否则很难沟通。<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"><FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>四、绝不口出恶言</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">恶言伤人,就是所谓的“祸从口出”。<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>五、不说不该说的话</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">如果说了不该说的话,往往要花费极大的代价来弥补,正是所谓的“一言既出,驷马难追”、“病从口入,祸从口出”甚至于还可能造成无可弥补的终生遗憾哩!所以沟通不能够信口雌黄、口无遮拦,但是完全不说话,有时后也会变得更恶劣。<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> <FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>六、情绪中不要沟通,尤其是不能够做决定</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">情绪中的沟通常常无好话,既理不清,也讲不明,尤其在情绪中,很容易冲动而失去理性,如:吵的不可开交的夫妻、反目成仇的父母子女、对峙已久的上司下属……尤其是不能够在情绪中做出情绪性、冲动性的“决定”,这很容易让事情不可挽回,令人后悔!<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"><FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>七、理性的沟通,不理性不要沟通</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">不理性只有争执的份,不会有结果,更不可能有好结果,所以,这种沟通无济于事。<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"><FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>八、觉知</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">不只是沟通才需要觉知,一切都需要。如果自己说错了话、做错了事,如不想造成无可弥补的伤害时,最好的办法是什么?!“我错了”,这就是一种觉知。<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> <FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>九、承认我错了</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">承认我错了是沟通消毒剂,可解冻、改善与转化沟通的问题,就一句:我错了!勾销了多少人的新仇旧恨,化解掉多少年打不开的死结,让人豁然开朗,放下武器,重新面对自己,开始重新思考人生,甚至于我是谁??在这浩瀚的宇宙洪流里,人最在意的就是</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312">〝</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">我</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312">〞</SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">,如果有人不尊重我、打压我、欺负我或侮辱我时,即使是亲如父子,都可能反目成仇,偏泪一点的,离家出走还算什么,死给你看的例子都屡见不鲜哩!<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> <FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>十、说对不起!!</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">说对不起,不代表我真的做了什么天大的错误或伤天害理的事,而是一种软化剂,使事情终有“转圜”的余地,甚至于还可以创造“天堂”。其实有时候你也真的是大错特错,死不认错就是一件大错特错的事。<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> <FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体"><FONT color=olive>十一、等待转机</FONT><SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN></B><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> </SPAN><SPAN style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-hansi-font-family: 华文楷体">如果没有转机,就要等待,急只会治丝益棼,当然,不要空等待成果就会从天下掉下来,还是要你自己去努力,但是努力并不一定会有结果,或舍本逐末,但若不努力时,你将什么都没有。<SPAN lang=EN-US><BR></SPAN></SPAN><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; FONT-FAMILY: 华文楷体; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312; mso-ascii-font-family: 仿宋_GB2312"> <FONT color=olive> </FONT></SPAN></B><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="LINE-HEIGHT: 130%; 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