wlotxcom 发表于 2009-8-10 17:18:00

职场好人缘的修炼之道

<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN lang=EN-US><A href="http://bbs.wlotx.com/rss.php?fid=73&amp;auth=b9d0R%2Fatx2jbGRrZbgQ4wov8qOqFEhI0nzCAp407vmxuT%2BbdDoychP6OHj0"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT color=#800080>职场好人缘的修炼之道</FONT></SPAN></SPAN></A></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">职场中的人际关系说复杂也简单，不外乎与上司的关系、与下属的关系、与其他非直属同事的关系、与工作相关的外界的关系</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman">4</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">种。很难说哪一种关系更紧要，它们都直接影响到我们个人的工作业绩和工作情绪。事实上，我的经验认为，人际关系的好坏首先取决个人的性格和经历的人事，其次取决于相处的技巧。所以，在职场中修炼自己的性格远比照书“一二三”地练习技巧有效的多。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　　以下的建议适合与所有人相处，因为这关乎人的品质和素养，是我们通常所谓的“内功”，是建立一切人际关系的基本。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　　高质量履行自己职责，完成工作任务是赢得与上司良好关系的前提。对于那些工作业绩无法量化的工作来说，了解上司的管理风格十分必要，因为这会影响你决定与之沟通的方式。直截了当还是委婉措辞，当事时说还是事后再说。上司的所为并非全部完美，唯上司是从也无必要，要让上司接纳你的观点和方案，应在尊重的氛围里，有礼有节、有分寸地磨合。不过，在提出质疑和意见前，一定要拿出详细的、足以说服对方的资料计划。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　　与下属相处</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　　职位上有差异，人格上都是平等的，责任和权利并不是炫耀和得意的资本。所以在和下属建立良好关系时，更要经常换位思考，帮助下属，其实是帮助自己，因为下属的积极性发挥得愈好，工作就会完成得愈出色，也让你自己获得了更多的尊重。身先士卒、宽以待人仍然是值得提倡的对下属的态度。此外，选择合适的批评方式和采取有效的与上司沟通方法一样重要，稍一不慎就可能招致敌意和抵触。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></P>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　　没有一个部门可以独立成事，与非直属同事相处的最大问题可能就是各自为政了。在办公室里上班，与同事相处得久了，彼此都有了一定了解。作为同事，我们没有理由苛求人家为自己尽忠效力。要获得支持，先要体谅别人。彼此工作有轻重缓急，所以在无事时建立良好关系是关键，有事时自然好说话。当然，支持应慎重。支持意味着接纳，而一味地支持只能导致盲从，也会滋生拉帮结派，影响公司决策层对你的信任。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></P>
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shiyi2004 发表于 2009-8-10 17:51:00

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说得挺有道理的！

wlotxcom 发表于 2009-8-11 10:23:00

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